
Serendipity wrote:But I do think every couple needs to wait at least a year
before having kids so there is
that.
Still a kid at heart and mind but i read a parenting book that said the exact same thing. And i think its great advice. The author said children complicate relationships and if one 'walks in', in the 1st year of marriage (which is also said to be the hardest)
, it does take its toll. Which would also mean that females who entrap men with pregnancies so they can put a ring on it have lots of odds stacked against them. While the couple is grappling with getting to know each other, baby will turn mother into a 24hr nurse and hubby anchorless. Ofcourse some one will say the ancients made it out okay but we live in different times. Said author said the relationships of yester century were functional. Those of our time are relational. Then again, the anthropologist Dr Fisher stated that the 'high' a couple has over each other lasts around 24months after the wedding (gloves come off; honeymoon ends) and "you won't be chasing each other around the table with a baby". Better to wait, i guess. Anyways, those in these situations can shine a brighter light on this with their advice.
I accidentally googled Vigilant
Forums and this came up in the results (urban dictionary):
'Loser conspiretard forum for
idiots. Rip off of another place. deflect and project huh zux?
Came across the same thing before i signed up here. Whoever wrote that needs to get a grip.