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Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 8:15 pm

http://www.dailyhiit.com/hiit-blog/hiit ... e-naked-2/

I saw this article and found it interesting because I've been saying that this should be the norm for a while now. I'd never really considered how allowing your children to be comfortable with your nude form from a young age could also reinforce a healthy mindset when it comes to viewing people as they grow up. I think this should be fine for both men and women to do, as long as you aren't doing sexual things in front of your children I don't think they will be harmed or scarred in the least bit by seeing their parents naked every now and then as they grow up. Of course, once they are older if they start asking you to cover up because it makes tehm uncomfortable then of course you should cover up. But I can definitely see how being used to an image of a man or a woman who isn't a pornstar, model, or actor could do wonders for your own personal self-esteem and your view of the opposite sex as you get older and begin being interested in dating and sex.

I'll just quote some of the more interesting passages below:

I live with a houseful of boys: four, to be exact. But they’re still relatively young — so there are no nudie mags stashed between mattresses, no stealthily-accessed porn sites that someone forgot to erase out of the Internet history, nothing like that. As much as I’d love to think my kids won’t be curious, I’m well aware that won’t be the case: those things are looming and will probably start happening much sooner than I’d like. (I mean, if I had my druthers, they wouldn’t even think about sex until they were like 25.)

But before all that happens — before they’re exposed to boobs that are as round and firm as cantaloupes and pictures of taut, airbrushed, dimple-less butts — I’m exposing them to a different kind of female body.

Mine.

Ours is not a modest household. I don’t lounge around in the buff like my boys do (and I spend more time saying, “Put on some pants!” than anything else) — but I’ve never refrained from changing clothes in front of them, or leaving the door open when I shower, or nursing babies without a cover. Because I want them to see what a real female body looks like. Because if I don’t — and their first images of a naked woman are the impossibly perfect physiques in those magazines or those movies — what kind of expectations will they have? And what woman could ever live up to them?

Between you and me, I’m dismayed, big time, by my post-baby body. But for the sake of my boys — and my future daughters-in-law — I lie through my teeth. When they ask about my stretch marks, I tell them proudly how growing a baby is hard work, and that they’re like badges I’ve earned (gaming references always hit home with dudes, no matter what you’re explaining). As much as I’d like to cringe and shrink away when they touch my squishy belly, I let them squeeze my flab between their curious fingers. Do I hate it? Yes. I want to wail, “Leave my fat alone!” and run for the nearest oversized T-shirt (or, like, the nearest liposuction clinic).

But I don’t. Because for right now, for these few formative years, my flab is their one and only perception of the female body. And I want them to know that it’s beautiful, even in its imperfection.


There will come a time when I cover up when they’re around. I’m sure at some point I’ll hear, “Ugh, Mom, put some clothes on!” or that they’ll learn to knock before barging into the bathroom (which sounds heavenly — I’m not gonna lie). But until then, I’ll let them run their fingers along my stretch marks, and grin and bear it when they squeal with delighted laughter at the way my butt jiggles when I walk across the room to grab a towel. Because while they’re young, I want to plant the seed — so that when they’re older, and their wives say, “I wish my thighs were smaller,” my sons can say, “They’re perfect just the way they are.”

And mean it.
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 8:25 pm

Why would I want to let my 6 inch penis flaccid hang loose in front of my future boys when it could quite possibly cause extreme insecurity issues for them in the future? Can't even to begin to imagine what my future daughters would think if all they saw were penises in the house.

Why would I want my children to view porn stars as upstanding citizens/human beings?
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 8:45 pm

There is way too much attention stuck on naked bodies... and how they should always be covered... and how damaging seeing some skin is... :roll:

Where I grew up, there wasn't that a fixed attention. I saw my parents once in a while when I bumped into the bathroom or their room without announcing I was going in. I saw my mom naked more, she never asked me to leave to change, just changed. I shared showers with my younger brother until I was probably 11 or 12. I changed in the same room and saw my female friends naked when we had sleep overs. As an adult, I don't have any problem being naked in front of a female friend. And I certainly don't have the body issues most women in this country have.

Real women can't compete with women in magazines or screens. We need to know how a real body looks like to realize that ours are just fine, even if a little wider and thicker that those in magazines and screens.

I watch a documentary not long ago were a doctor said that men having penis size issues is a recently new thing that started around the time boys stop being able to see each other bodies in the shower after PE classes. He said that when he was growing up, all boys would showered and get dressed together and that that doesn't happen anymore.

So I kind of agree with the article and Loki. Seeing real bodies in normal circumstances (like while taking a shower or changing) should help to keep a healthy body image.
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 8:50 pm

i had no ac for years when my son was small. i went around topless sometimes, usually to sleep if it was super hot. he didnt think twice about it til he got older and when he asked me to cover up i did. there is nothing sexual about nudity in and of itself. i agree with the article.

kf - why on earth would u feel it necessary to mention the length of your penis?
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 8:57 pm

Kung Fu wrote:Why would I want to let my 6 inch penis flaccid hang loose in front of my future boys when it could quite possibly cause extreme insecurity issues for them in the future? Can't even to begin to imagine what my future daughters would think if all they saw were penises in the house.

Why would I want my children to view porn stars as upstanding citizens/human beings?


1.) Probably TMI.

2.) You are more than welcome to explain to your sons that a man's penis isn't full grown until he reaches maturity so they shouldn't be insecure. If they end up with an incredibly small penis though that would lead them to be insecure then most likely your penis isn't going to make them any more insecure than most of the penises they will encounter while watching porn.

3.) How many penises do you have? You said your future daughter would be overwhelmed by all the penises flopping around. You mean your sons' as well? And this article isn't saying everyone in the household should just always be naked, simply don't be ashamed of it and hide your nudity from your kids like it's some awful taboo, because evenutally they will see naked people, most likely in the form of models, pornstars, or actors and that could be their default for what other naked people look like, which is inaccurate in the majority of cases.

4.) You probably wouldn't want that, but chances are they will watch porn at some point or another without your knowledge.
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 9:23 pm

In my household no one will be watching porn and if, I find out they are watching porn, there will be severe consequences. Watching porn is for the weak and feeble minded. All it does is cause sever psychological problems for people but I guess that's one of the main reasons why Jews brought it to the world in mass.
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PostMon Nov 24, 2014 9:30 pm

Kung Fu wrote:In my household no one will be watching porn and if, I find out they are watching porn, there will be severe consequences. Watching porn is for the weak and feeble minded. All it does is cause sever psychological problems for people but I guess that's one of the main reasons why Jews brought it to the world in mass.


Whatever you say. Good luck :thumbup:
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostMon Nov 24, 2014 10:05 pm

oy vey.. i said the same thing. then my son watched porn. behind my back clearly, because someone at school told him to search for it and he had no idea what it was before he opened it. i will say he was scarred by that experience for a while.... a couple YEARS later he confessed it to me out of the blue, i had no suspicion that anything like that had ever happened.

you cant control everything your kids do. it is literally impossible. unless you are going to homeschool them and go completely off grid and never allow them to have a social life of any sort. good luck with that.
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Re: Fighting Against Female Body Issues

PostTue Nov 25, 2014 12:13 am

justjess wrote:oy vey.. i said the same thing. then my son watched porn. behind my back clearly, because someone at school told him to search for it and he had no idea what it was before he opened it. i will say he was scarred by that experience for a while.... a couple YEARS later he confessed it to me out of the blue, i had no suspicion that anything like that had ever happened.

you cant control everything your kids do. it is literally impossible. unless you are going to homeschool them and go completely off grid and never allow them to have a social life of any sort. good luck with that.


If you don't know what your son is up to or watching then I can only assume you're not doing your job as a parent but then again, I could be wrong.
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PostTue Nov 25, 2014 2:41 am

he watched it at a friends house. not under my supervision. and i think im doing pretty well that my son would even feel comfortable enough with me to disclose that. judging my parenting really isnt the point.

kids do things that even the best parents in the world are not aware of. thats part of being a kid. you can not watch them 24 hours a day. it is impossible when they have to go to school and sports and have freindships etc. its not even admirable to try to do that it stunts their development to give them no independance. part of being a parent is teaching your child how to be an adult. babying them and completely sheltering them from the world is not accomplishing.

also what does porn have to do with the premise of the op? that healthy non sexual nudity can be good for children?
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